21 Truths About Turning 21

One week from today, on the 14th of April, I will turn 21 years of age! Wow. That crept up kind of fast. For some reason, this feels more significant to me than any other birthday or any other future birthdays. I am not 100% sure why as I legally became an “adult”, could drink and pretty much do everything else when I turned 18 three years ago. Nothing will change in that regard. But, I feel different. We constantly evolve and change, but over the past few months I have really felt that change.  I feel more mature, confident and am happier than ever, despite the fact that life is not perfect. In my short time on this planet, I have definitely learnt a few things and I am still learning. Here are the 21 truths I have learnt thus far, in celebration of turning 21! Enjoy xox

The 21 Truths I have Learnt

 

  1.  Friends come and go, even the ones you thought would be there forever. Oooh, not a nice truth to start with but I better throw it out there anyway. People grow, change and drift apart. It is not always a bad thing but it is a bit bittersweet. I have certainly drifted apart from people I was once inseparable from over the years but in return I have gained some truly amazing friends.
  2. Speak Up. Okay, so some people are naturally good at this anyway, but when I was younger, I was a little bit of a doormat. People could easily walk all over me and I was too shy to defend myself; I was bullied and mistreated by quite a few people but I never really said anything or did anything to help it; I was silent. I used to be so scared of disapproval that I wouldn’t even share my own opinions Oh my, those days are long gone and it is so freeing to be able to not feel intimidated or scared anymore. I refuse to stay silent now and I do not take any shit. I wish I could tell my younger self that it is really liberating to have your own back and it helps to filter out those who should and should not be in your life.
  3.  Diets are fucking stupid. And soul sucking. And shit. Just don’t do it. Eat right and exercise and voila, you look good and feel fabulous.
  4. No matter how old I get and how many times I do it, i will still feel super giddy and excited every time I go to the zoo/safari park/farm. It was my favourite thing as a child and its still my favourite thing now. Even typing about the it right now fills me with so much joy and makes me want to book tickets to go again. It is the best place on earth. And lemurs are great.
  5. Never google your health problems/symptoms problems. Just don’t do it. Go to a doctor, seriously. And if you’re still not sure, see another doctor. You know your body so do not be afraid to speak up if you think something is not quite right. Sometimes, you do have to push a bit, but it is worth it. Health comes first.
  6. Family is not always blood. There are people in your life who are family, even if they are not blood relatives. Some are closer to you and there for you more than your own blood relatives. I am blessed to have quite a few people I consider family who truly mean the world to me and have sometime’s been there for me when others have failed to do so. Real family is not about blood, it is about those who love you and have your back, on the good days and the bad days.
  7. Never Stop Learning. Just because school ended does not mean you should stop studying. Having the luxury of education is not something to take for granted. If you can, go to university or college. If not, pick up a book or watch a video. Talk to people or visit a library. The amazing thing about being human is the ability to learn new things and new skills.
  8. Never underestimate yourself. If you tell yourself you are going to be a failure or that you are not smart enough, that is exactly the outcome you are projecting for yourself. We get what we put in to this world. If you want to be smart, be smart- there are 100000’s of ways to be smart. You want to be a Neurosurgeon? Great, go for it! Nothing great is free, you’re going to have to put the effort in and work for it. Never underestimate just how much you are capable of.
  9. Tea is the best thing ever. That’s all I have for this truth. It is just fact, okay.
  10. Failure is okay. Giving up is not. Failure is natural. Before J.K Rowling was one of the richest women in the world and one of the most celebrated authors ever, she was a broke, depressed, divorced single mother simultaneously writing a novel while studying, trying to get by on very little.  She did not become successful until her 30’s. She never gave up and it payed off, literally. It is okay not to have your shit together right now, but instead of wallowing in self-pity, do something. Do anything, but never do nothing.
  11. If in doubt, have beans on toast. It never fails.
  12. Our attitude in life will determine life’s attitude to us. If you think life is unfair, and that bad thing always happen to you, the chances are that life will treat you unfairly, and you will always have something to complain about. I truly believe in positive affirmations because they are what has helped me grow as a person. We attract what we give out so being positive attracts positive things and people. Being kind will be received with kindness and being grateful helps you see the world through rose tinted glasses.
  13. The world wont change unless we change ourselves first. Gosh, this all feels a bit too deep for my pretty, pink blog but I am going to carry on anyway because this is important to me. What is going on in the world right now is a reflection of society itself. All this corruption, arrogance, ignorance, racism and hate is so easy to complain about, we are all guilty of complaining. You hear “The world is so fucked up” all the time- Yes, it is, but how do you expect it to change if people do not change?  People are the problem. We can all be kinder, more giving and less judgmental.  The world would be a much better place for it. Too many people are narrow minded and unwilling to accept change, but change is key to moving forward.
  14. It is okay to be scared. Courage is not the absence of fear. But fear can paralyze us if we do not look past it. Most things we fear do not happen anyway, for they are just false expectations that have this scary realness to them, when the reality is that fear is all in your mind. You can let it hold you back or you can work through it. Sometimes, you just have to grit your teeth and get through it because the end result nearly always feels better than the fear that you experience before it.
  15. Never leave a loved one when you are mad. We have all heard it from our grandmothers to never sleep on an argument that is not resolved, but it is something that I can not stress enough. Life is a precious, fleeting little thing. We are here one moment and gone the next. You never know what your final words to someone will be. Also, anger is not a pleasant emotion to carry with you. Learn to let go or atleast resolve something. Appreciate your loved ones and try not to let little niggling things get to you. Most arguments are over something stupid anyway.
  16. Suppressing emotion is bad and unhealthy If you need to cry, then cry. A lot of the time we are told to keep it together and keep emotion inside. I feel this is particular a problem for a lot of men who are taught not to express emotion freely through fear it is seen as weakness or not masculine. I say this is bullshit. Sometimes, we need to cry. Sometimes, we need to scream. If we couldn’t cry then we wouldn’t be human. Let it out, you will feel better. If you need help or are truly down or depressed, talk to someone. There is no shame in it. If anything, it is brave and to be encouraged.
  17. Nature is important to happiness. Breathe in fresh air, go for walks, feel the grass between your toes and the rain on your skin. It feels good. Nature is quite beautiful and very therapeutic.
  18. Music is also important to happiness. I am a big music lover and I seem to attract musical people. I could not live without music. This has always been the way for me. I grew up loving classical,Celtic, and rock music and also watching musicals and singing. I worked in a music shop as a teenager, I still love to sing and the majority of people I know are either a musician or have music as a key part in their life. One of the main things that attracted me to my boyfriend is his love of music and the fact he is a talented musician. I truly believe that we first connected over our shared love of music and it is such a blessing to be surrounded by people who appreciate and love it as much as I do.  I believe that music is one of the most powerful tools us humans have.
  19. Don’t take yourself too seriously. I love embarrassing myself. I love to laugh and be silly and watch people embarrass themselves and be silly. Being to wound shut is not good for yourself nor is it good for those around you. Learn to loosen up and have a bit of fun!
  20. Be Kind.  I say this a lot and people probably think I am a bit of a hippy but kindness is powerful. Be kind to yourself, other people, animals and nature. It feels good. Hate has no purpose whatsoever, as does jealousy and resentment. Little acts of kindness can change a persons day. It can change a persons life. It is so, so powerful and there can never be enough of it. We can all be kinder people.
  21. And finally, be hopeful. Always have hope that things will be better and that tomorrow will be better than today. Hope is seeing light in the darkest of times and hope is what keeps us going and gets us through this weird little thing we call life.

 

Love Elizabeth

xox

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